If any of you have read Plato or Murakami’s Kafka on the Shore or watched Hedwig and the Angry Inch, as well as many other sources…you would know about the theory of the three sexes.
According to Plato, there were three types of humans…one, which looked like two men, with two faces, four arms, four legs and two lots of genitals, stuck together back to back, another which was two women back to back and a third which was a man and a woman back to back. One day, when Zeus (replace with all other gods that have been placed in this story) was scared and angry with humans. He was afraid of their potential and he tore them apart so they were 2 beings…what we now see as humans.
It is believed that our soulmate is the other half of our previous being and that Zeus scattered us all over the world so we had to work hard to find our other half.
It’s an amazing story and explains sexuality in the most beautifully simplistic way and shows that sexual preference is natural and inherent and not a choice. It also makes you believe there’s only one person in the world for you and that you are only a complete person when you find that other person.
I love the story. I think it’s interesting and contemplative and expresses desires of human nature that we can’t explain.
However, it is a story. It’s a man made story! And it’s also a story, which does not take any stance in religion particularly a Christian religion.
I am writing this post to make a point I think and I think that point is that people interpret things to what they want them to mean. I mean that in the sense that over the years people have wanted to express themselves in an absolute so when they find someone they love and can’t imagine living without, they call them their soulmate. Now, the original source has been forgotten by most, which means the rest of the story is avoided.
I don’t believe in soulmates. I don’t like the idea that we aren’t sufficient enough on our own and that effectively we’re half a person until we’re in a relationship. I also don’t like the idea that if you don’t find that other person who is “perfect” for you that you will always feel a lacking in your life.
I do however believe in love and finding someone who is perfect to share your life. I’m not saying it will only be ONE person who will have that ability. What I’m saying is that its easy to misplace your feelings and exaggerate them because of an ideal you set yourself and that can and probably will lead to disappointment.
There are other implications to this story and the belief in it that I have hinted at in this story e.g. that if you are a Christian ultimately you shouldn’t believe in the story…but I will not delve into all of them. I think I just want to say that you shouldn’t put pressure on a relationship. You should accept it for what it is and that might mean that it is amazing and perfect. The more you think or believe that the person is your soulmate the more upset and disappointed you’ll be when little things start to bug you and will possibly lead to the end of a perfectly good relationship because you are expect it to be something ultimately impossible.
Just love to love not because you think you should!
Comments (2)
Well, first of all, I am the type of person who is fine being single. Of course I feel a little pressure to get married or think about that at my age, but I honestly don't mind being an old maid. Because I'm the type of gal who would rather be unmarried and single because she didn't meet the right person, than be the gal who settled for just an average match.
At the same time, however, I do believe in soul mates. I don't have high standards for men--I have realistic standards, meaning their values and mine have to be compatible. A soul mate, for me, is not someone who will complete my life, but someone who will add an extra perk, a bonus, if you will. I believe that one person can have more than one soul mate--not that everyone does, but it could be possible, who knows? A soul mate is someone who shares the most values with me, someone who is not 100% perfect but a person who is most realistically the best match for me.
I haven't found him yet, but I hope to meet him halfway. Love is one of those things in life that happen when you least expect it, and so I'm not being anal about finding him right this moment.
I wish us both a lot of luck in this area